Eli, a significant figure in the Old Testament, serves as a poignant example of indulgent parenting. As the high priest of Shiloh and a judge of Israel, Eli held a position of great spiritual and civic responsibility. However, his indulgence towards his sons, Hophni and Phinehas, ultimately led to personal and national tragedy.

The narrative of Eli and his sons is primarily found in the book of 1 Samuel. Eli's sons, who served as priests under their father, are described as "worthless men" who "had no regard for the LORD" (1 Samuel 2:12). They engaged in corrupt practices, such as taking the best portions of the sacrifices for themselves and committing immoral acts with the women who served at the entrance to the tent of meeting (1 Samuel 2:13-17, 22).

Despite being aware of their actions, Eli's response was notably weak. He rebuked them, saying, "Why do you do such things? For I hear about your wicked deeds from all these people. No, my sons; it is not a good report that I hear circulating among the LORD’s people" (1 Samuel 2:23-24). However, his rebuke lacked the necessary firmness and corrective action expected of a father and leader. Eli's failure to restrain his sons is highlighted in 1 Samuel 3:13, where God declares, "For I told him that I would judge his house forever for the iniquity he knew about, because his sons brought a curse upon themselves, and he did not restrain them" .

The consequences of Eli's indulgence were severe. A man of God came to Eli with a prophetic message, declaring that both of his sons would die on the same day as a sign of divine judgment (1 Samuel 2:34). This prophecy was fulfilled when the Philistines defeated Israel in battle, and Hophni and Phinehas were killed (1 Samuel 4:11). Upon hearing the news of the ark of God being captured and the death of his sons, Eli fell backward from his seat, broke his neck, and died (1 Samuel 4:18).

Eli's account serves as a cautionary tale about the dangers of parental indulgence. His failure to discipline his sons not only led to their downfall but also had far-reaching consequences for the nation of Israel. The indulgence of Eli underscores the biblical principle that parents are called to train their children in the ways of the Lord, exercising both love and discipline to guide them in righteousness.1 Samuel 2:27-36
And there came a man of God to Eli, and said to him, Thus said the LORD, Did I plainly appear to the house of your father, when they were in Egypt in Pharaoh's house?
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1 Samuel 3:13,14
For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knows; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not.
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On Obedience to Parents
... parents who pass for kind and indulgent; who permit ... am pained continually at seeing
religious parents suffer their ... mouthed; say not, like foolish Eli, "Nay, my ...
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Adonijah
... as fatal to him as it had been to the sons of Eli. ... were formed; if firm resolution
on the part of the parents had taken the place of indulgent laxity, if ...
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Prov. 22:06 the Duties of Parents
... See it in Eli's case ... David was an over-indulgent father, father who let his children
have their ... Parents, I beseech you, for your children's sake, beware of over ...
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Home-Discipline.
... Eli was an example of extreme parental indulgence ... It too often happens that parents
thus take opposite ... father too severe perhaps, and the mother too indulgent. ...
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Christian Behavior
... Of the duty of parents to their children; and of children to their parents: Of masters ...
This did Eli, though not enough; and thus did David (1 Samuel 2:24, 25 ...
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Homilies on Philippians, Colossians, and Thessalonians.
... Isaac, that he might be rewarded, [662]331; an example to bereaved parents,
[663]336 ... Eli, and his sons, punished, [1281]359; sin of, not unimitated, [1282]ib. ...
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